Reading while eating my oatmeal this morning. Good book. I recommend it.
From “Lighter as we go: virtues, character strengths, and aging” by Mindy Greenstein and Jimmie Holland, Oxford University Press, 2015, pp.151-152
The Virtue of Wisdom: knowing what we don’t know
The researchers determined that, at least in the area of understanding and trying to resolve social conflict, older is, in fact, wiser. They recommended that for this reason, elders should be included in more negotiations of social conflicts. . .Laura Carstensen and her colleagues at Stanford suggest that it isn’t only time and the accumulation of experience that account for this kind of wisdom. She argues that with age comes greater motivation to find a sense of meaning in life as well as less motivation to expand our personal horizons. The resulting perspective is likely to lead to more thoughtful, wise decisions. The ability to grow lighter as we go is a form of wisdom that entails learning how not to sweat the small stuff, learning how not to be too invested in particular outcomes (for example, being the “winner” in an argument), and accepting that while it’s worth aspiring to important goals, we won’t always achieve them.